Changes = Please Read

For some time now I’ve combined two paths on one blog, my weight-loss and my writing. At this time I would like to split the blogs. I changed the name on this original blog site to Losing a Person and Finding Myself and it will cover my weight-loss journey. So, If you want to follow this journey, you don’t have to do anything.

If you have enjoyed my essays and want to follow my journey as a writer, then follow this address: Monique Egelhoff – Writer. I hope to keep my followers…maybe you will follow both blogs?  Please comment if you have any questions or concerns.

Thank you for following me!


The Weekly Facts of Loss ?lbs


Old Scale…Being Replaced today

 The Stats:

I ate well last week, and even though I got to the gym twice instead of four times like I’d planned, there is no way I gained the four lbs the scale said I’d gained. There is no way. So, today I get a new scale. The scale I’m using wasn’t very expensive and I think it’s shot for whatever reason. I will weigh in on Monday with the new scale.

The weekly recap:

This week I made it to the gym four times which was my goal. I attended a class on working out and I learned more about the elliptical machine. I now know how to maximize my efforts on it.  I seem to be stuck at thirty minutes of cardio. I won’t obsess about this plateau. I will not push myself too hard at this weight. As I get thinner, then yeah, I’ll push myself harder.

Food was ok this week. I ate lots more fruit and vegetables and I’ve been eating a lot of my lentil stew. I discovered a new favorite food. It’s Lean Cuisine ‘s Spring rolls. They are so good and are 5 points per serving of three rolls.  I’ve been eating them for breakfast with fresh tomatoes and fruit. Yum!

Weight loss blogs:

This week’s blog is Diary of an Aspiring Loser

Michelle lives in the San Francisco area and has lost seventy-five pounds, had two babies and is back to losing and getting fit. I like her drive, her realistic life (she goes out to eat from time to time, and she’s juggling a busy life) and I am inspired by her participation in training for triathlons. She was voted one of the ten best weight loss blogs to follow.

Tip for the week:

Drinking water is essential to losing weight. I have a hard time drinking plain water. But when I use drink powders I have no problem reaching the goals for consumption. I am quite specific as to the brand and flavor I use. It is the least “perfumy” of the powders. Ocean Spray White Cranberry Peach is my brand and flavor.

Feel good moments this week:

Non weight loss related this week, I am working on a pen and ink drawing of a New England beach scene and it’s turning out great. There is none of my teacher in this drawing, it’s all me. I can’t believe I can actually do this drawing and have it come out ok. It is truly an empowering realization. I’ll have pictures of it this coming week, stay tuned!

Goals for this coming week:

Hit the gym 4x, going for 30minutes each day on the elliptical or the treadmill, and doing weights two days.

Tracking better

Cooking this week.

Need Help From Readers for Blog Post on Friendship

I’m working on a post about lifelong friendships and I would like for you to contribute your friendship story. This is about a special friend, one that has gone through your life with you, the one that means the most to you, the one you can be yourself with and pick up where you left off even if significant time has passed, or geography separates you.

Please share your story with me. You can keep it anonymous if you want, just email me at I’ll incorporate the story but change the names.

Thanks for taking the time to read and hopefully participate.

I think this is a great article. She makes great points about a current debate. I’m pro Kindle all the way. What about you?

Cristian Mihai

There are two types of people in the world: those who realize that this world is constantly reinventing itself and are usually capable of recognizing the new directions in which the world is headed, and those who can’t.

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Breathing Lessons

I couldn’t breathe…my tears were causing me to drown in sorrow and anguish. Not having children of my own, My animals are


my children. 2010 was a bad year for my animals and for me. I had two cats, one a black and white tuxedo, and one a white and black domestic short hair. Sneakers and Smudge. I had them for eight years. They were my life. Within six months of each other, they were gone and I was devastated, trying to breathe, trying to function. How could this be? They were indoor cats, pampered and sheltered. Smudge went first, the victim of a stroke. Sneakers died six months after, the victim of insecticide spray (I did not use it, my mother did). He had organ failure.

With my heart in a million shattered pieces, I went to the shelter. It had only been a couple of days, but I knew if I didn’t have something to love, I would not get through the heartbreak. The house was so empty. The food bowls and litter box evidence of loss. I felt directed to go to the Halifax Shelter. I steeled myself to face the need of the shelter’s inhabitants. No, I could not take them all home. I could only take one. There were so many and I had to put it out of my head that this shelter does euthanize. One. For me. Now. Stay focused. Breathe even though it hurts.

 I said to myself, you’ll know it when you see it. You will fall in love with one, and that is The One.  They allowed you to hold one at a time. There was a volunteer getting the cats out of their cages, which were clean and odor free. I must have held ten kittens, all the while watching the kitten in the arms of the man who was seated to my right. He was speaking to the kitten, and I strained to hear what he was saying. “You have to let them see your personality…You have to be at your best… Someone will take you home…” He was trying to find a good home for this special kitten. I asked to hold her. She was The One. I assured the man she was going to an excellent home. I picked her up the following day. I could breathe again. My heart was still broken, but there was light at the end of the black tunnel.

Bella (Yes, I’m a Twilight fan, so sue me)Bella is a Maine Coon. So pretty with her strips, her fluffy tail, her thick coat, but it’s her personality that makes her extraordinary. She is dog-like in her demeanor, greeting me with ferocity and adulation. We are joined at the hip and inseparable.  I can finally breathe again.

Synchronicity, I was just talking to someone at work about this workout and I was going to look into it. This just makes me want to go to Walmart and get one today. Definitely on my to do list.


Last year I wrote an article entitled 4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Do Kettlebells that received a lot of attention. At the time, I had only been swinging the bells for a month or so and was very much a kettlebell-rookie. But ten months later, and a couple thousand “snatches”,”lunges”,”get-ups” and “oh-my-goodness-these-are-hard-ups” under my belt, I still stand by my original statement. So here are four more reasons why kettlebells might not be for you…

1. Kettlebells are Open-Source

Lets face it – “old” fitness is dead. We’re in Web 2.0 and World 2.0. People are talking and sharing like never before, and finding out what real fitness is all about. What works spreads like a virus and what doesn’t work dies off in a few mouse clicks. And that is why Kettlebells, CrossFit and mixed-martial-arts (MMA) are thriving. Now “success” isn’t determined by how big your muscles are or how many hours you…

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The Weekly Facts of Loss – 38.2Lbs

The Stats: Weigh-in shows a loss of 1.8lbs, bringing me over the plateau of 37 lbs that I’ve been at for so long!

The weekly recap:

This past week has been an OK one, not great, but OK. I made it to the fifty minute mark on the elliptical, which was a goal. Didn’t make it to sixty minutes, but I will soon, maybe next week. I would like to reach four days minimum working out, this week was two. That is why the loss is so little.

I don’t know why I keep slacking on the gym. I know intellectually that I need to go every day, but I allow things to deter me from going. Maybe the new blogs I found this week will help keep me on track next week. The inspiration coming from other people’s accomplishments fueling my work and helping me to stay on track.

I wonder why I am hesitant to really buckle down and work out like I should. Is there an underlying reason this keeps happening? The reason that crosses my mind is the same reason I regained my weight the last time I lost. I wasn’t ready in my head to be thin. Could this be playing out again now? I’ll think about this some more and see if it’s what is happening.

Weight loss blogs:

I went looking for weight-loss blogs this week. I found quite a few and I’ll be featuring them here in the coming weeks.

This week’s blog is Who Ate My Blog.

Steven Vinson was 632 pounds and has lost over three hundred pounds, bringing him close to his weight goal. I don’t like his food choices, but they are working for him, and that’s the important thing. Each person must find what works for them and stick with that.

Tip for the week:

Fresh pear or Gala apple, sliced and topped with light Laughing Cow Blue or chipolte cheese (35 calories a wedge) Point value:1!  Delicious!

Feel good moments this week:

I was at work, waiting on a customer who really wasn’t in the mood to interact, but she looked up from her purse and said that I looked thinner. I told her I was just over 37 pounds and she brightened right up and complimented me on my accomplishment so far. We chatted a bit and I felt really good. She hadn’t seen me in a very long time, and she wasn’t trying to make me feel good. But she did.

The other feel good moment happened when I was with my mom when she was buying a car. The salesperson hadn’t seen me in a while and when we walked outside, she pointed out how good I look now. (Wait till she sees me next year!)

Remember, if you see someone and like how they look, pay them a compliment. You never know what   kind of impact it may have for the other person. It will be a feel good moment for you as well.

Goals for this coming week:

Hit the gym 4x, going for 50 minutes each day on the elliptical or the treadmill, and doing weights two days.

Tracking better

Cooking this week.